Dwelling

[Shane'er]

The Brain, heart, and flesh seems to work against you along with the enemy having tools to do it. Pain of past relationships because of kids attatched comes up over and over. The pain seems to keep resurfacing and I have worked 3 years and trying to move from it. I can only do what is shown to me...I am fighting but it is one of those times it feels overwhelming...Jesus did it and were to be like him; so why can't I get past it?

[Deborah Morgan]

Hey Shane'er,

I am not sure I can help but I can share my experience with grief and loss and trying to work through situations. I went through a divorce that truly impacted my children and my decisions that I made afterward. I had carried so much guilt because of choices I made and because of anger that I continued to feel after the divorce. There was so much hurt and I didnt know how to heal from it. I was a Christian....I would say new...I had made a commitment but didnt know what it really meant to make a committment to Christ. Over the past 12 years God has revealed so much about that situation to me and continues to do so. It is part of a healing process that seems to take an entire life. The more time that passed it became easier to look at and when I could look at it I would go through the pain and pray about it and God would reveal something about that situation to me that helped me heal. It was either something that was done to me during my marriage or something I did. The Lord would show me according to his word in his book where those situations fit and how it should have been handled. I would make amends with the person I hurt or try to talk to the person and let them know that I forgave them for the pain. Damage is damage. It doesnt just disappear....anytime something gets broken it needs to be cleaned up and fixed or repaired. If there seems to be no resolution it is probably because God is not ready to reveal a resolution. There is probably something that needs to be taken care of before there can be a resolution. God is almighty! And if anyone can get you through its God! Letting go and forgiving yourself and others is the hardest lesson I have had to learn but it is the best lesson I have learned and its helped me to develop a much better relationship with Christ. God continues to show me everyday....grace and mercy....if you trip and fall just get back up and start all over..... when there is a situation that comes up between you and the past...go through the emotions....allow yourself to feel them and talk to God about them and then give them to God....when they are in his hands you are guaranteed a resolution.

[Shane'er]

OK Deborah

This I appreciate the time you wrote this and the energy spent. I do agree with everything you said, I think it is hard to realize it may take 5, 15,20 years to go through the process, and I have a hard time to trust that I will be much more at peace and resolved if I work with what is revealed, I guess a part of me feels I screwed up my time and will not experience what I could have before. I hope that makes sense. Your response was very mature and it registered with good spirits with me...Thank you

Deborah Morgan said:

Hey Shane'er,

I am not sure I can help but I can share my experience with grief and loss and trying to work through situations. I went through a divorce that truly impacted my children and my decisions that I made afterward. I had carried so much guilt because of choices I made and because of anger that I continued to feel after the divorce. There was so much hurt and I didnt know how to heal from it. I was a Christian....I would say new...I had made a commitment but didnt know what it really meant to make a committment to Christ. Over the past 12 years God has revealed so much about that situation to me and continues to do so. It is part of a healing process that seems to take an entire life. The more time that passed it became easier to look at and when I could look at it I would go through the pain and pray about it and God would reveal something about that situation to me that helped me heal. It was either something that was done to me during my marriage or something I did. The Lord would show me according to his word in his book where those situations fit and how it should have been handled. I would make amends with the person I hurt or try to talk to the person and let them know that I forgave them for the pain. Damage is damage. It doesnt just disappear....anytime something gets broken it needs to be cleaned up and fixed or repaired. If there seems to be no resolution it is probably because God is not ready to reveal a resolution. There is probably something that needs to be taken care of before there can be a resolution. God is almighty! And if anyone can get you through its God! Letting go and forgiving yourself and others is the hardest lesson I have had to learn but it is the best lesson I have learned and its helped me to develop a much better relationship with Christ. God continues to show me everyday....grace and mercy....if you trip and fall just get back up and start all over..... when there is a situation that comes up between you and the past...go through the emotions....allow yourself to feel them and talk to God about them and then give them to God....when they are in his hands you are guaranteed a resolution.